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So when the opening begins, density pours out,
fear
pain
Anger is in the mix as well,
that is another choice in reaction to the pain and fear.

If that feels appropriate for you, 
feel it and let it go, 
don’t become stuck there,
for it is a secondary emotion,
and can feel so much better than pain and fear,

that’s right! It feels better in the body to feel anger,than to feel fear or hurt.

Dr Jill Bolte Taylor, a brain scientist,
wrote in her book,
“My Stroke of Insight”
“It takes “less than 90 seconds” for an emotion to get triggered, surge chemically through the blood stream, then get flushed out.”

Hear that, FEEL that, take that in:
An emotion lasts for 90 seconds from start to finish.
You see or hear something that makes you angry,
and it will run its course thru your nervous system,
thru your body, in 90 seconds!

That is if…you don’t rerun the initial event that caused
the emotion in your mind.
If you do that, if you rerun the emotion,
then it can last in your psyche and in your body
for 90 minutes, 90 days, even 90 years!!

So…you can tolerate any intense emotion for 90 seconds,
Anger,
Grief,
Fear,
You have the control!
It’s you call!

As this energy prompts and facilitates your opening,
what comes flying out first?
Pain and fear!

Bang! Your first impulse…close back up!
It’s too much!
It’s too messy and chaotic!
And you are the microcosm,
this is happening on the world stage as well.
You are seeing it everywhere!

As humanity goes, so goes the planet.
As you all start to open up,
all the skeletons fly out of the closet,
all the secrets are reveled,
no more dark corners to hide in,
and the world at large mirrors this back to you.

Now…how you perceive this will be the difference
between being caught up and overwhelmed by pain and fear,
or riding the wave, because you are conscious of what and why this is happening.
Knowledge is power.

To get to all the good stuff inside, 
all the dark, dense stuff has to leave first.
Do you get that?
Of course you do.
So don’t be worried, or frightened by it,
and certainly don’t stop opening!

The best is yet to come, 
for each of you individually and the planet as well.
So just watch in educated awe
as these secrets come to light,
as the pain is felt, and then subsides.
Let the light of truth and openness 
fill all the nooks and crannies,
to reveal only clarity and transparency.

There are areas of complication in life.
They are like knots in an otherwise smooth chain.
How do you approach these knots?
Are you someone who, in their struggle to untangle
the knot, just pulls it tighter?

Do you lack the patience and perseverance it takes 
to slowly and methodically release each knot?

Or… can you find the Zen in the art of untangling the knots?
The approach that works is one of unfocused, focus.
WHAT??!
Yep, unfocused, focus.

Being easily focused, with a softness.
Not a harsh laser beam type focus,
that pulls the knot tighter.

When you look at a knot in a chain,
with a soft focus, it will show you how to untangle it.
You will softly roll it around, and gently start pulling
from the outside edges.
As you untangle the edges, the center,
the part that is knotted the tightest, will start to unravel.

Done right, with unfocused focus, 
you will see where to pull to loosen, and
it will literally open up and unknot itself.

Try that with the knots in your life,
be Zen about them.
Approach them with a softer focus and let them 
reveal where to pull, and soon you will watch them
untangle themselves with the least amount of effort from you.

You should NEVER use these words.
Just kidding!!
But the truth is, these are very inflammatory words because they are so definitive…and more than likely, not true.
Yet, we accuse people all the time, using these two words

.
You never take out the trash,
you never tell me you love me,
you never let me get a word in edgewise,
you never cease to amaze me,
you never shut up!

You’re all guilty of using one, or all of these , and truth be told, they are not accurate, and can incite rage!

How about these:
He always takes the last cookie,
You always say that,
You always try to get in the last word,
You always make me feel bad,
You’re always late.
More than likely…not true.

Never means no time EVER!
never in the past or future, 
not.at.all…

Always means EVERY time,
without fail
constantly,
forever

Really?!
So these words are not accurate,
and we want you to pay attention to your words that you use,
especially in your intimate relationships.

So…in your next argument, leave out the 
always and the 
never’s
It will force you to be more conscious and more accurate in 
what you want to convey, and will be met with much more receptive 
ears and hearts.

Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered
The lyrics to this song are comical,
but they kind of sum up three of the states 
you’ve been finding yourself in as of late.

They can all apply to the same relationship, situation,
or project at any given time.
When things are going smoothly, there is a kind of magical
spell you find yourself under.
You become bewitched , enchanted and delighted,
finding synchronicity around every corner, with a skip in your step,
a smile on your face, and joy in your heart.

That very same, person, job, or situation, 
can then shift, turning into a big mess, 
where nothing goes right, anything that can go wrong
does! and besides that, your computer is down and there
is lousy cell phone reception everywhere you go!
You find yourself bothered by even the smallest details.

Then just as suddenly, the events change again!
The seas calm, the storm is over, miracles seem to occur,
and there you stand…
scratching your head, feeling confused and bewildered.
What an emotional roller coaster!

RELAX! 
Now that you’ve experienced this a couple of times,
you must realize that when things look bad, and you haven’t a clue,
there is that bewitching, magical, enchanting state just around the corner!

Things are changing SO fast now.
Smile at being bothered, and laugh at bewilderment,
they’re funny! They turn you upside down, spin you around,
face you in a different direction….
Right onto the path of delight, and enchantment,
feeling bewitched all over again!

By setting boundaries and showing by example,
you teach the people in your life how to treat you.
Will you accept not being treated with love and respect?
or will you stand tall and say “hey, that’s not okay”!
It can even be telling a friend you will not tolerate their chronic
lateness.

Do you show others that same love and respect that you seek?

Boundaries are difficult for some people to enforce, 
for they fear they will lose something if they do.
If a love or a job or a friend evaporates because you 
ask to be treated a certain way, then it was not grounded in
any way that could have been sustained over time.
In other words, it was not REALLY a friend, or a lover 
and the cost was too high.

When you treat others with respect and fairness,
kindness, empathy, and love, it is returned to you ten fold.

It boils down to your self worth, and wether you will let 
any person or situation chip away at that.
It also shows you if you are recognizing the worth of 
those around you, and if you value it equally, 
or more than your own.

If you are nurturing, you will be nurtured.
Generosity brings you generous acts,
Thoughtfulness will be rewarded,

Always show your gratitude when someone treats you
wonderfully, for they may be teaching YOU ways you 
should be treated that you hadn’t imagined.
And then return the favor!

Everything in Moderation…Even Moderation
Moderation in life is an admirable aspiration.

Staying mindful when eating,
Having temperance in volatile situations,
being appropriate, 
having a measured response,
These things will all serve you well in life.
Just be careful you don’t over moderate , 
moderation!

Where’s the spark?
Where’s the ZaZaZu?
Where’s the fiery debate?
Where’s the sparkle?
Where the joy?

There is a certain safety in moderation,
a feeling of security.
That is a fine thing to have.
But don’t forget to occasionally shake things up!

Color outside the lines!
Waaaaaay outside the lines!
Laugh too loud,
eat all the bacon!
drive fast,
eat desert, maybe two!! ( we can hear the gasps)!
wear green,
have a glass of wine…or two ( oh my)!
eat in bed,
be messy,
be naughty,
Come on! Live life!

We’re not saying to do these things all the time,
but remember to cut loose every once in awhile.
It will make you a much more interesting person,
and much more fun to be around,
and it will put a skip in your step,
and some pizazz back in your life 😉

We are goings to extrapolate on this topic,
because it resonated so much with many of you.
That is so Good!
and really new.
A couple of years ago, you were not ready,
but things have changed, 
Oh my! how they’ve changed!
and you are starting to see light at the end of the tunnel.

All right!
Here is the definition of Receive:

re·ceive  /riˈsēv/

Verb
Be given, presented with, or paid (something): “most businesses will receive a tax cut”.
Take delivery of (something sent or communicated): “he received fifty inquiries”.
Synonyms
get – take – accept – obtain – admit – welcome

We love doing this, showing the definition,
it adds such clarification.

In this definition, the ones we want to focus on today
are three of the synonyms.
ACCEPT
ADMIT
WELCOME
These are all great in concept, 
but get sticky in their execution.

Accepting help.
Ouch! We know, not so easy.
That is such a huge step in receiving.
Letting others help you.
You benefit greatly,but so do the others!
Why deny them that pleasure?
It does not make you weak, on the contrary, it shows tremendous strength to ask for help. Ponder that awhile, it feels so foreign, and you want to discard it immediately,

DO NOT

Admitting love into your life.
Really!? That one’s even worse, even harder.
To receive love, you have to take the first step of 
becoming vulnerable, and giving it admittance into your heart.
That. Is . Huge.
We know.
But the benefits so far outweigh any downside to this.
It does get messy, we agree,
it can hurt, we know.
But when you soften your heart, let down the walls,
and allow admittance of another, two lives are changed…
forever!
Let THAT sink in too.

Now welcoming.
To welcome something is to stand open armed,
smile on your face, and embrace it.
Can you welcome change? Anything that comes your way?
Come on!! now you’re asking too much!
Just stand openly and receive whatever life has to offer?
You mean say YES instead of no?
Zig when I want to zag?
Not only embrace change, but run with it?
What could possibly be the benefit in that?

Well, let’s see…
Less stress,
more happiness,
a more open mind,
an unburdened heart,
surprises,
miracles.
And so much more!
We are not kidding about this.

Along with your mantra
I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING
try on 
ACCEPTING
ADMITTING 
WELCOMING
just stick your toes in at first.
These are three keys to help unlock the doors
to better days ahead, and the life you’ve always dreamt of.

I Am Open To Receiving

Let this mantra go into your head
and spend some time there, cleaning out all doubt.
Say it often, for at certain times,
it will mean something entirely different.

There can be a problem,
a disconnect,
when you are wanting something,
really asking with all your intent,
but there is a part of you that is not open,
not comfortable with,
doesn’t feel deserving of,
or worthy of receiving.

Whatever the reason,
usually something in childhood,
it may have felt valid then…
but honestly, haven’t you had enough 
of the wounds of childhood,
that were seen with the eyes of a child,
and processed with the understanding of a child,
being the filter thru which you run your happiness as adults?

Yes! You are!

Running this mantra through your mind as often as you think
of it, 
will start to shift you into an energy of reception.
It may feel uncomfortable at first.
Like wearing shoes that are too tight and
you will have a million internal arguments of 
why that statement feels untrue.

Then the exhilaration will set in,
and you will start to breathe easier.
Every time you repeat this phrase

I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING

It will wrestle with the self doubt 
and unworthiness, truly leaving you open 
and willing to receive all the wonderful things,
the big life, 
that the Universe has been stockpiling for you!