Change Is Messy
“All great changes are preceded by chaos.”
My friend loves that saying. She laughs every time we remember together the first time I said that to her when her well-oiled life suddenly hit the skids.
But it is!! Change is messy. I wish it were tidy, but…it’s not.
Change takes its big muddy feet and leaves its tracks on your life’s clean floors.
“Every positive change–every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness–involves a rite of passage. Each time to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception.”
It can feel like a ten car pile up or an out of tune piano concerto.
But it ain’t gonna be pretty…at least not at first.
You wanna know the Ah HA I had around change recently?
You can never be good at it— in…the…beginning.
How could you be?
By its very definition change is uncharted territory.
It’s different and it’s new and I don’t know about you, but I have a pretty steep learning curve with different and new!
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept is as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.”
– Eckhart Tolle
All you CAN be is compliant.
You can act like you ordered change because you know what?
You probably did, you just can’t remember.
It was on that list somewhere, on the back of a napkin, or a crumpled piece of paper in some jacket pocket.
Maybe it was disguised under the title: Finding the perfect man.
Except, he lives in Chicago and you live in San Diego.
Or, I need a better job. 3 months later, at the worst possible time, you get laid off.
Expand my business. That means thinking bigger, learning new skills, hiring and maybe even firing people.
Get to my ideal weight. That can look like getting up at 5 am to meet a friend or a trainer at the gym before work, which also means early to bed, which probably means no wine. I told you. Messy!
All of this is very do-able.
But in the beginning, it can shake up your life like a 7.0 earthquake. It feels so groundlessly uncomfortable. I literally get shaky when I’m in the midst of a big change. It’s like my body is wrestling with the new information coming in. Part of it is processing it, and the other parts want to literally break loose and run in opposite directions.
So, don’t let your body, especially your eyes deceive you.
It’s gonna look like a shit storm for a little while, especially at the start.
But you know what? You can do this! The bigger the request, the bigger the storm.
The bigger the storm, the bigger the changes.
The bigger the changes, the bigger and better the end results.
Just not right away. Sorry.
Just remember, you ordered it.